You want to be an awesome manager but it's been a difficult shift from what you used to do really well. Some days you feel super motivated, knocking out tasks after tasks. But most days, you feel unsure of yourself and doubtful that you're positively impacting your teams. You wish you have the step-by-step guidance on what to do.
Hey, I’ve been there too, and I've come out on the other side.
I work with Engineering managers who want to develop people and create engaging teams but are overwhelmed. They’re stressed out because of their workload and are afraid of not having the skills to be a good manager. I help them get better at conducting regular one-on-ones, delivering feedback and becoming a team coach so that they feel confident as a manager.
So, how did I get here?
Ever since I was 14 years old, I’ve always questioned the meaning of life. The grown-ups around me looked miserable which made me wonder what’s the point of studying hard so that I can get high-paying jobs when I’ve not met anyone happy with their lives. The song Belle in the Beauty and the Beast (1991) felt like my theme song “There must be more than this provincial life.”
Even though I had a lot of the usual angst growing up as a teenager, I had enjoyed this period of my life tremendously as well. I remembered “coaching” my friends over the phone, helping them with school work, motivating them to come to study groups I’d organized and helping them ace their exams. Not knowing that it will turn out to be my life’s calling.
I struggled as an adult to feel fulfilled. I went from working in the banking industry to the software industry. After more than a decade work as a software developer, a dream job appeared - an Agile Development Manager role. At the time, I didn’t feel confident in my skills and deserving of the role. It seemed impossible to get this job. I felt very stuck and overwhelmed all at the same time.
Finding a mentor
At around the same time, I had been working with a director in my company for a few months and had learned a lot about leadership, communication, teamwork, and many other skills. I respected his work ethic and loved working with him. I decided to take the chance and asked if he could be my mentor, which he was happy to accept.
The turning point came when I approached my mentor and asked for his help about this dream role.
Initially, I was embarrassed to tell him about it because I was afraid he would think it’s a terrible idea, that I’m way out of my league.
But I did it anyway as I needed some guidance. Surprisingly, not only did my mentor not laugh at my idea, he thought I would make a great manager. He helped me to change my thinking from “It’s impossible.” to “Why not me?”.
Because of his belief in me, it shifted my thinking. He made me realize that "Yes, why not me?" I then applied for the role and prepared as if my life depended on it. I detached myself from the outcome and hope for the best.
Two weeks later, I got the job. 🙂
Almost 3 years later
My day to day job involves a lot of coaching as a manager. Coaching teams and coaching one-on-one. I’ve learned to conduct many difficult conversations and help teams work more effectively.
Having experienced my mentor’s coaching, and seeing the impact of my coaching on others, it was clear to me that coaching is a path I wanted to pursue further.
I decided to enroll with the Beautiful You Coaching Academy and became a certified life coach in 2017. I began coaching clients halfway through the course. I’ve since coached people in different industries ranging from brick and mortar businesses, health industry, and those just starting their businesses. With my help, the people I'd coached were able to get clear on why they were stuck and moved forward with their career and businesses.
My life today
I get to live a life that is on purpose and one that fulfills me. I get to help amazing people get unstuck, help them overcome their fears and have a new found belief in themselves. I love working as a coach and being able to make a difference in my clients’ lives.
To deepen my coaching skills, I'm also embarking on a new journey with the Integral Coaching Canada. As of March 2019, I'm one of their Certified Integral Associate Coach and later this year, I will be completing their second certification as a Certified Integral Professional Coach.
Now, I would love to hear from you. To learn more about how I can help you create the success you want, please contact me.